Waiting

It's that time of year when you just want to snuggle with your significant other, drink hot chocolate with them, and go ice skating together like in the cheesy, Christmas romance movies. It's the time of year when there is great hype to be in a relationship (at least to me there is).

It's easy for us single folks to wonder:
"Where is my Prince Charming?"
"Is something wrong with me?"
"Did my future spouse get run over by a reindeer?"

Okay, maybe not the reindeer one.  But it is easy to fall into the trap that you should and need to be in a relationship to be happy.

I have been reading 1 Corinthians lately and came across Chapter 7:

^{8 "}Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do [...]"

  

^{Paul later goes into detail at verse 32:}

³² I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. ³³ But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— ³⁴ and his interests are divided. 

An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. 

But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. ³⁵ I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

I don't know about you, but I think Paul covered all the bases regarding his opinion on marriage.

Paul writes that when we are married, but also in any serious committed relationship with a significant other (in my opinion): Instead of focusing on what God wants, your attention is divided on how to please your spouse/ significant other.

While being in a relationship/ married is a wonderful thing, it really isn't necessary to be happy.  

In fact, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship if you think it will make you happy.  Relationships require hard work, patience, can be infuriating at times, can be worth everything, or be worth nothing.

So, until you feel as if you are truly ready to be in a relationship (or feel as if you already are): WAIT.

Wait and pray that God will lead you to a God-fearing Christian.  One who will work with you as a unit in the relationship, and build a relationship that is centered around Christ.

Until that happens- just wait.

Instead of asking where your future spouse/ boyfriend/ girlfriend is, focus on your current relationship with God.

Ask your-self: 

"Where does God want me to be?"

"How can I please my Heavenly Father?"

"How can I serve my God?"

The time you spend single is the time you can give your undivided attention to God.  

True, you probably aren't able to cuddle with God or drink hot chocolate with Him.  But, you can drink hot chocolate while reading your Bible (I do this often).

Our relationship with God is the MOST important relationship we have in our lives.  

And don't worry, the future Godly person you marry will be worth waiting for :)

Have a blessed day,

<3KM